unwanted eulogy; killer grief

achem— ok—

he had a good taste in music,
so songs
are ruined
now.

every tune
reminds me
of him. 

he had a good laugh, too.
              i fought to hear it
              more               often               than               not.
                                                                i remember that day
                                                                he admitted
                                                                he never laughed
anymore.
                            i made an internal promise
                            to force it out of him.

              it is as healthy to laugh as it is to cry,
but there has to be a balance between the two.

Excuse me, you can’t be here—

in recent weeks
i have become a record               broken.
skipping on the same beat.
                                          there is some song,
                                                        some poem,
                                          stuck in my head.
some magical way to rid myself of this grief.
my chest burns with sorrow in a way
i cannot                            extinguish.
                                                        believe me, i’ve tried. 

You have no right to talk about him—

i have nothing else to think on
than his untimely passing
from my life.
                            sweet person,
                            kind hearted.
              you held me in your arms
              that night i cried without reason.
                            i have several reasons now,
                            several words i’d like to
rescind
              but cannot manage to.
              you were so gentle, so—

And yet you smothered him to death!  

eviction notice

i am standing at your door,

begging for entrance,

for three months now.

at some point you shoved me out,

sent me away,

and put yourself under lock and key.

and i— stricken with love,

i am standing at your door,

knocking until my hands are numb,

until my knuckles

are bleeding.

i am not sure why

i cannot leave.

i am not sure whether it is

the baggage i have left inside,

my final pack of cigarettes

sitting on your kitchen counter,

or the ages and ages

i have spent

dreaming of your living room.

when you first welcomed me in,

everything was so warm.

but it’s mid-February now,

i am stuck outside,

evicted

from the premises

and my feet

have frozen

in my shoes.

#METHREE

my relationship with my body is complicated and constantly fluctuating. consider this my first step toward autonomy and reclamation. here is a poem about it (tw for sexual assault):

#METHREE

1.

you’re standing in the middle of a corn field and a man tells you to scream before it’s over. you’re running out of time, sweat piles on top of your body, and you want to scream, want to      please him,

do anything           to      please him,

but you can’t.

2.

your mother beats at you, your father joins in. they are molding you into a quieter shape, a better shape. one they can show to their friends, say look at our good and well behaved child.

look how well         she welcomes         abuse.

3.

you blink twice when you swear, the words
are foreign   in         your mouth,
it makes you      uncomfortable           to think about.
raised to be prim, proper and polite with a capital P.
raised
to be quiet.

4.

afraid of your own body, you sold it to the first man
who looked at you with lust. it was taken from you
at an early age, nonetheless,
what’s a stranger’s piece inside of you            (drunken and crying)
compared to you, a preteen
(drunken and crying)?
after he finishes, he tells you that you smell like his ex girlfriend, asks if he could call you Christine,
and hold you      as if       You           were her?

5.

you’re bleeding from your lip, you’ve been biting it to keep your lessons from your childhood.

6.

you gave yourself different names in bed,
moaned when they touched You,
even when it felt like               nothing.

7.

you don’t have a word for what he does to You, but he fucks you like he means it, really         means it,
and reminds you you’re his whore.
it feels right with his hands around your neck,
because they’ve always
held their hands
around your neck.

8.

la petite mort, not as you would understand the expression
“the brief loss
or weakening
of consciousness
specifically to
the sensation
of orgasm”

but a little death nonetheless.

9.

your grandmother gives you two pieces of advice:
one— a man should know you neck up, but never neck        Down. fact.
two— a man should always believe he was your second Ever. fact.
you become an actor, a porn star,
script says:         fuck me like              you mean      it,
script says:          fuck my brains out,
script says:          fuck me til      i can’t      walk   straight.
script says:        (with rising feeling)
hurt me, hurt me, hurt me!
you cave in, bury the truth under fucking and fucking           and fucking and fucking—
left your body just as they entered it.

10.

there’s different types of crazy—five.
the emotionally unstable are better in bed.
you don’t admit to being all five types.
men don’t want to hear this when you’re naked,
they want to hear you moan, to lick the sweat
off of your breasts and that they’re the second
to ever                  fill you.
fact.

11.

you don’t have a word for what he does to you, but he’s given you a word for yourself: monster. you deserve it, and you’ve always deserved it.

12.

gas lights the fireplace and you’re burning, twenty one and burning, always burning. this hell you’ve created by dating the architect who lives in his car.

13.

you’re nineteen, can’t walk straight.
a man with ice blue eyes leads you
into a bathroom
as you dig your heels
into the grooved hardwood floor, sticky with spilled alcohol.
nervous laughter spills from you
as he forces you to your knees
and puts himself inside of you,
so that you don’t really say no,
but n-umpf.
you tell your sister and she says
men are disgusting,
but you never speak of it again.

14.

you’re twenty one,
in a relationship with another, you say no,
but your pants are off
and this time,
he’s the one laughing.
your partner
stops speaking to you
for 24 hours
for allowing this to happen.

15.

you’re twenty two,
in a new relationship.
his eyes are green, you call him broccoli. he stops when you leave.
he kisses only after asking.
still, you stop almost always.
say im ruined almost always.
he holds you, almost always
for the       hundredth time.

16.

you don’t swear. you don’t say no. you lay still and think of England.

17.

you’re standing in a cornfield and the man from before is still telling you to scream like you mean it. you scream, but no noise comes out this time. it may be due to his hands around your neck, or they’re yours, and they’ve always been yours.

18.

how can you write about fucking,
—yes fucking, not sex, not making love—
when you can’t even fuck your lover
like you        mean it?
when you can’t even fuck them
without crying?

an ode to my dead god

A PREFACE:
in hospitals, they don’t give you pens. 
                                                   just pencils. 
i hate the impermanence of writing
                                                   in pencil. 
                               as if everything 
could just be erased. forgotten. 
           i am used to scratching things out, 
angrily, 
                        until the paper 
rips. 

AN ODE TO MY DEAD GOD.

buoyed by
a catalogue
of existence, or, a litany
of Reasons To Exist,
my dead God and i
sit in conversation.

why?

i don’t need to say more,
God hears the rest before i speak it.
my dead God says nothing in return.
as if i should be grateful i was
caught red-handed, tears unshed
at my non-funeral.

i hate this pencil. it’s too small and
not nearly sharp enough.
there is no elegance in writing
with a pencil,
the words are thick and drunk,
blurring or slurring together.
i miss the days when they were
filled with lead, not graphite,
but thanks to the Herculean efforts
of one man i cannot hope
to poison myself.

why?

my dead God asked if i could stop
calling them my dead God.
i say i’ll stop when their people
stop using their name
to justify the death of my people.

when God stops being the reason
people can’t have rights.

when God steps in to stop
all this nonsense
happening today.

my dead God relents.

why?

my hand is hurting.
this poem is over.
i bet you wanted a happier ending.
ask my dead God.

i am borderline.

I am Borderline,
So I have no soul.
I am Borderline,
So I am a demon.

We are likened to,
—at worst—
vampires,
parasites,
cancers

We are likened to,
—at best—
conniving,
manipulating,
ruthless

I am Borderline,
So I am a black hole

— so i must be eradicated
— so i must be ejected
—so i must be escaped from

I am Borderline,
and when i was diagnosed,
it was a curse

They say,
“Do not let anyone a Borderline into your orbit on any basis”
(but do they know I agree?)

They say,
“If you have a relationship with a Borderline, they will ruin your life.”
(but do they know I agree?)

They say,
“Watch out for these people”
(but do they know I agree?)

“AVOID”
They say
“AVOID”
“AVOID”
“AVOID”

it’s funny,
since,
all i am
is a void.

I read a licensed psychiatrist state:

“People say that Borderlines can change but often times, they wreck havoc on their spouses, children and/or parents and the abuse lasts a lifetime.”

I have heard:

“Remember, they will never improve – no matter how optimistic and hopeful you are, that brief period of loving affection will give way to profoundly disturbing, explosive rage. Always.”

I have heard:

“Kill yourself.”

Borderlines are…evil
Borderlines are…dangerous
Borderlines are…bullies
Borderlines are…abusive

I am Borderline, and I am inhuman. That is what they say. I am Borderline, and I cannot be trusted. I am Borderline, and I am damaged goods—not worth anyone’s time.

Why is it,
That people can
—to some extent—
understand how depression changes a person’s behaviour?
understand how anxiety changes a person’s behaviour?

Why is it,
That ‘it is not them, it is their illness’ applies to all else
—But borderline?

I guess what I’m say is—is this me? And is this all you see?

she. [a series]

i.

she
with sunshine
in her hair
and the ocean
in her eyes,
i tasted
her strawberry coated lips
(that the sun had grown
for me)

ii.
she
with blue eyes
i’ve been seeing
for a long time,

fair hair
and a
wry smile,

taller than me
by some,
but that’s not difficult—
at 5’1″
i barely scream
height.

an eternity of distance
between us,
yet still
she
manages to be
the other side of my coin.

iii.
i am
coca-cola lips
—syrupy energy—
long sleeved
black sweaters
and ripped jeans

she is
summer sweat
—somehow sweet—
white sundresses
and sandals

we are
unabashed laughter,
shameless kisses
with our pinkies wrapped
these promises
will never
be broken

…more to come…

 

five moments.

the first when we were children
barely melded by the universe
a first scar
formed on the knee
later will be held against time

i say to you my final goodbye,
our future uncertain,
you kiss my lips
at eight years old
this is the first moment
we connected

i’ll take you as my bride,
i laugh,
because i can feel it
and this terrifies me.

the second, still children
taken by others
a sea rests between us
an ocean,
you correct me

we don’t hold hands, this time,
don’t ride one bike together
but we sit on Our Bench,
five inches of space between us
knees aching to hit
one another

the third,
and we’re together
i write for ages
about two puzzle pieces
who happen to fit
together

but the ocean is still between us,
the fear is still within me,
so i leave.

four.
i take a year to leave.
you disappear for two.

five,
and you return
this time
i’m not afraid

the last ten days of august.

what could empty you?

          in the weight
of our divines
the un    thinking
deep within us
strokes of pure spirit
      our fleeting fall

labour — the early war;
                 original sin
in between the earth and sky
            is the shade
            of the galaxy
why limit sorrow?
why blank the source?
             conquered,
             we go on
and put life first

ignore the    remnant artifacts
                      merciless undoings
turned pools,
                      nudge    of time
ordinary notes of care
unleashed poisons
etched
into skin

history’s suitor to time,
         shards,
                      debris
remember   remember
           remember
the blank silence echoing

days go on,
        fewer,
               sleep escaping
crying out
                   it was a home.

cursed nights into mornings,
         who can make of this?
what once was theirs,
          whatever is left?

emptied, murdered, obliterated
             an annihilation
of the ego
              the anguish,
                     the anguish

eyes still seeing last touch
feeling
ancient alone abandoned
what is a year
              a month
               a decade
but a moment?

—lost and burned
            futile devices,
fervour’s writing

mailed to the void

and the sea?
        the sea?

the saltwater dead, my love,
the saltwater dead

the last great epitaph
of our love:
           i am nobody
           i am nobody
           and you
           are gone

oh, August, a season deceased,
tell me again
the hieroglyph
of your name

on forgetting

days are split,between when i feel
as though i am forged of iron,
indestructible and fierce
and days in which i feel
i am a dandelion sort of person,
designed to break apart
at the slightest gust of wind

on the day i was a flower,
waving to and fro
you found me,
and told me that a dandelion
grows through anything
grows despite everything
and when all is said and done
all it does is spread sunshine

i promised to remember that.

you were the wind,
but instead i was swept up in you
around you and through you
you reeked of poison,
but all i could smell were roses.
you watered me in the river Lethe,
and i could never have enough

when you left, without a final drop,
the echo of you grew,
surrounding me in smoke and dust
i try to shake your ghost
but it is embedded in my shadow
so that now i can no longer bloom

i had asked, with mirth in my tone,
is this the part where you eat my heart?
tear it out with your daggers for teeth,
and flaws for hands?

your gaze was cold
but you smiled
nonetheless
—        i am tired of dreaming of you.